There are a number of reasons why a person may seek therapy. One may want to develop greater self awareness and emotional intelligence, find clarity and be happier. One may want to change behavior or patterns that get in the way of having successful relationships or of living one’s life fully. One may have unresolved trauma, PTSD or hurt that needs healing, leaving residual depression, anxiety or unhealthy patterning. One may have negative thoughts or distorted views about the self that prevent achievement. Or one may have the simple desire to experience an authentic connection with the self or another person. Or one might want all of the above.
The benefits you obtain from therapy depend largely on how you use the process and put into practice what you learn. I have witnessed people make great changes in their lives.
Some examples include:
- Reduce Anxiety, and Panic by obtaining mastery of your thought processes
- Stop Depression by earning how allow feelings move through you
- Attain a Better Understanding of Yourself and be in charge of how you react
- Develop Relationship skills and improve communication techniques
- Improve Intimacy in relationship and keep it alive and well
- Attract a relationship. Let's look at what's getting in the way of finding a partner and work through it.
- Find Resolution to Issues by developing greater clarity and understanding
- Learn Healthy Ways of Self Soothing
- Manage Anger, Sadness, Loss, Disappointment and other more difficult feelings by learning how to be with them in a spacious way
- Change Old Behavior Patterns and Develop New Healthy Ones
- Work Through Low Self-Esteem by addressing negative beliefs about the self and working through trauma
- Build Confidence by learning how to lead from the essential self
- Stand in your power by learning how to abide in the belly
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different for each individual. In general, you can expect to come in to my office, have some tea, sit on the couch at our scheduled time and discuss the current events happening in your life, an issue, your feelings and thoughts about it, your personal history relevant to the topic, and report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous therapy session. Regardless of what gets brought into the room, I will guide into a process that allows you drop into yourself, gain awareness, look objectively at the issue, problem or insight, meet and heal hurts, work through it and find more clarity, etc. This will change each time we meet depending on what you bring into the room to work through.
Depending on your specific needs, therapy can be short-term, for a specific issue, or longer-term, to deal with more entrenched relationship patterns, for example, or your desire to heal an attachment issue or trauma from childhood. Either way, it is most beneficial to schedule weekly sessions. As clients attain skills to support themselves outside of the room, it often makes sense to move toward reducing their sessions to every other week or less depending on what is needed and desired. I do have many clients who enjoy coming every week, and that is fine too, if that's what works for you.