As a psychotherapist with over 15 years of experience, I've helped many individuals and couples have better, healthier, sustainable relationships with themselves and other people.
While we can't change the past, we can work together to better understand, resolve and heal whatever is blocking you from having the life you want.
Most often, the difficulties that arise in relationships stem from hurtful experiences from the past that cause people to create unhealthy coping strategies and habits, to feel disconnected from themselves and their partner and/or to resort to unskillful communication.
I see relationship as the vehicle within which we can do our deepest work, because it is in relationship that our core psychological material gets activated. Working with the relationship allows us to sieze the opportunity to connect with ourselves more deeply and respond from an authentic grounded place, rather than from the place of reactivity, blame or victimhood. I like to use the relationship as the place to transform.
I’m a very directive and engaged therapist. I don't just sit there and nod my head. I use practices that will help you deepen into your experience, to get you into the here and now and connect with yourself. I will show you how to turn toward yourself in a loving, constructive way, so that you can feel better. I will ask you questions that will challenge your habitual ways of thinking to move patterns around. I will help you develop awareness of your habits, thoughts and feelings, so that you can engage the objectivity necessary to create change. I will invite you to take responsibility for what you bring to the table. The first step towards transformation is taking ownership. I will help you identify and transform negative perceptions about yourself that are holding you back from experiencing yourself accurately. Using EMDR and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy I will help you process past hurts and heal, so that you can be more present in your life.
When you connect with yourself in this direct way, transformation happens.
Please contact me with any questions you have about how I work or to set up an individual or couples session.